According to an anonymous source, there are organized parties in the city of Lahore, Pakistan, where the swapping takes place discreetly in car parks, or at exclusive beach parties, usually among the elite class. A host of Web sites, some requiring registration like Adult Dating are catering to their needs, including Facebook; the creators of a group called Pakistani Swingers N Wife Swap (Swinging Parties for Couples in Pakistan) write in the description:
“This Group for Pakistani couples and bi females who want to share wife swap fun with other couples in Pakistan and abroad. We are planning to host swinging parties in Isb (Islamabad) and Lahore, Pakistan. Genuine couples can contact us for more details. Look forward to hear from you all. Regards. Nafisa and Zia”
Not surprisingly, there are countless, if not more, sites catering to Indian couples wishing to be a part of the new sex trend. Their primary form of communication is the Internet. It has been reported by the media that wife-swapping is becoming more popular in metropolitan cities; there have been some newspaper articles and videos released that shed light on Indian swapping.
Last month in China, 22 members, including eight women and fourteen men, of a wife-swapping club were arrested for criminal licentiousness. The mastermind behind the faction was a 53-year-old associate university professor living in Nanjing, Ma Xiaohai, who is currently under police supervision. Says Xiaohai, it all started with harmless chat room discussions regarding peoples’ marital problems until the hottest topic became spouse-swapping, 190 members part of the forum. The discussion led to the members actualizing their sexual fantasies inside his apartment.
“Every couple has this or that kind of issue – a marriage is like a bowl of water that has to be drunk, swapping partners is like a bowl of sweet wine.” said Xiahoai in an interview published in The Times. According to an official police report, the members facing the allegations were a part of 35 sexual encounters, using Xiahoai’s apartment on 14 counts. Regarding the issue, a family planning official, Zhang Feng, said to the China Daily, “wife-swapping should not be promoted to the public as it will lead to the spread of HIV and Aids and other sexually transmitted diseases. Neither the sex forum nor the expo should provide a platform for advertising bold and unacceptable views to the public." In contrast, sociologist Li Yinhe, says couples should have the right to engage in spouse-swapping and that it is a “normal kind of entertainment.”
Says Edward Dengrove, M.D, a medical author and practicing psychiatrist in New Jersey, gives us some perspective on the issue. In his article published in Sexology, he writes:
“How common is the exchanging and loaning of wives among us? And why? For one thing, it is more common than most people seem to think. Nor is it limited to men who seek a change of bedfellows. There are women, too, who desire such ‘swaps’ and who take the initiative in arranging them. The temporary exchange of mates is sometimes merely a device to provide variety in the sexual life. These are the wives who doubt their own attractiveness as women, and their husbands’ worth as men. If other women find her mate attractive, such a wife feels reassured that she has made a wise marriage choice, and she also feels that she must be pretty ‘special,’ too, to have first claim on so desirable a man … Often, the desire for another person’s mate, and the willingness to trade one’s own, arises from far more complicated motives than the simple longing to add some ‘spice’ to a marital routine grown dull. There are many men and women who are unsure of their own worth as human beings, and who need constant reassurance and approval from others. Such people frequently lend themselves to this kind of arrangement."
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